God, I’m sorry for having to do this, but I couldn’t help myself. I said I would try to use this blog for photography only, but I have been observing a phenomenon online for a while that really has been getting on my nerves for quite some time, and today it just… Gah. So this will be one of the rare posts where I just have to use words to get my point across.
Anyway, the phenomenon I’m getting increasingly sick of, is extreme fans.
I’m not talking about just being a fan, simply admiring and looking up to a person – hey, by all means I’M A FAN TOO, of a lot of people. And that’s completely OK!
But there are some fans that just have to take it all to a whole new level.
When I see tweets and facebook comments from young girls begging their icons to give them the attention they seek, I don’t really mind, I can ignore that. It’s annoying, but still, not that hard to ignore.
BUT when I see girls that are so desperate for attention that they are threatening to hurt themselves or worse if their icon doesn’t give the wanted feedback, that’s when I start getting pissed off. And yes, I have a message for those girls (yes, about 90% of these people are girls as far as I have seen)
Guess what, your life will not improve at all even if you get the attention you want from this person. You have to step away from the computer, and actually start living in the real world if you want anything to get better at all – it is YOUR life and YOU should be the only one responsible for making it worth living. To rely on someone else to save you is not living, that is putting your life on hold.
I really know life can be tough sometimes, but it is extremely unfair to make your own misery the responsibility of somebody else, you should be the hero in your own life!
And if you are unable to handle the challenges that life tosses at you, then you should of course seek help and comfort. By your family, really close friends, or even a professional if your problems are really big, that is. It is not a shame to be unable to handle all the tough things in life, but if you really need help – you get a professional to talk to, not your hero, icon or whatever. Period.
“You must understand the whole of life, not just one little part of it. That is why you must read, that is why you must look at the skies, that is why you must sing and dance, and write poems, and suffer, and understand, for all that is life.”
– Jiddu Krishnamurti
And now, I apologize to everyonefor using way too many words. I just had to get this out of my system, it was blocking my creativity badly. Like a giant brainfart. I feel much better now, bye!